Birthdays are such a great event! We all have one and we all
love it, to a point anyway. I am more into ignoring mine than celebrating or making
a fuss about it but secretly I do like to feel special when my birthday rolls
around. Kid’s birthdays are nearly the greatest day of the year. Three holidays
in a kids mind are stand out awesome and those would be Christmas, Halloween,
and the birthday. The one day everyone is celebrating you. There are balloons, cake, ice cream, a party,
favorite dinner, friends, and those ever amazing presents screaming your name
and your name only. Kids wonder if they
have a present in there they have been begging for. Maybe a surprise present
mom and dad said they would never buy. It’s just all around one of the greatest
days of the year to a child.
For my
son it’s an entirely different story and as strong as I aim to be all three of
these holidays can get me a down a bit. Yesterday was in fact Phillips third
birthday and to be totally honest he didn’t recognize it. I actually don’t even
know if he understands he is three years old. I like to think he does and I
like to think he knew it was his day but all of the clues of the day pointed to
he had no idea what was going on. He liked his balloons because they float that’s
cool and he liked some of that nasty chocolate cake. I unwrapped his presents
and he had almost no interest in the unwrapping process. It took him some time
to even acknowledge the gifts and play with them. New things are so easily
accepted. A hard thing for others to understand when a gift is presented to
him, no matter how awesome it may be, it’s still new and out of the ordinary. I
end up pushing it on him so the person who gave it to him feels like he likes
it. A habit I am getting myself out of because it’s an issue that is only based
on my concern and no one else’s.
Even
though he lacks the ability to get excited about his own birthday and it gets
me down a bit there is the other side to it I appreciate in a huge way. He is a
child who doesn’t require things to be happy. He doesn’t demand anything as far
as material objects and even though he shows no interest right away he also doesn’t
show disappointment if something isn’t what he thought it would be. Sometimes a
kid gets a gift they don’t like and they let it be known but I don’t see that
in him either. It’s all based on interest. There is no show if emotion
regarding selfish desire. To me that is one of the inspiring things about him.
Of course I want him to be excited about the holidays but there so much to learn
from someone who isn’t capable of falling into the selfish desires of wanting
to many things, even if he didn’t choose to be this way it’s something we all
wish we could grasp one way or another. The ability to be happy with what you
have and the only desire that ails you is to communicate how you feel. What if
we all had just a little bit more of this in ourselves?
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